At the “just getting started” age of 55, I’ve got more than a handful of friends who have become widows at a pretty young age. I honestly cannot even pretend to imagine their grief while still navigating life, often with kiddos still at home. This is a beautiful article about grief written by a strong woman who lost her beloved after 20 years of marriage. (taken from Plain Values magazine).
I believe the right kind of grief is a sign of a life well lived. Loving well means grieving is inevitable. How grief is handled is where the outcome lies. Grief tends to settle in the lungs if emotions are not released. It’s one of the reasons so many elderly couples die so closely together (timespan wise).